My cat is rubbing and scratching against me… What does it mean?

Cats may not speak our language, but they sure know how to communicate—sometimes in ways that leave us scratching our heads.

From strange marking behaviors to curious cooling tricks, cats have a language all their own, and understanding it can bring you closer to your feline friend. Let’s break down some of the most puzzling — and often misunderstood — cat behaviors and what they actually mean.

Standing up to pee

Ever walked in on a small puddle of pee on your furniture or wall and thought, “Uh-oh, is my cat sick?” Think again. This behavior is a form of communication, not an accident. While it’s often associated with unneutered males, female cats and even neutered ones can mark their territory too.

The urine marking, which is often done at a higher level like on a wall, sends a message to other cats. It’s a territorial marker, a way of saying, “I was here,” and establishing boundaries. If another cat changes the scent, you might see a “re-mark” to reassert dominance. It’s all about the message!

Panting to cool off

A panting cat? It may seem strange, but unlike dogs, cats don’t rely on their tongues to regulate body temperature. However, in extreme heat — think hot summer afternoons in places like Texas — cats may start panting to help cool down. Another trick they use? Licking their fur. The evaporation of saliva offers a brief cooling effect, much like running a damp cloth across your forehead on a sweltering day.

Rubbing against you

When your cat rubs against your legs as soon as you come home, it’s not just a cute greeting and one of the best feelings in the world. It’s a multi-layered behavior that includes affection, recognition, and territorial marking.

When a cat rubs against you, it means you have an aura of comfort and safety for them. They’re marking you as their safe zone.

The areas your cat rubs — its face, chin, and base of the tail — are packed with pheromone glands, which release invisible “scent messages.” By rubbing against you, your cat is essentially saying, “You’re mine. Welcome back to my territory.” It’s a sign of attachment and a way to communicate ownership.

So, when your cat starts rubbing against your legs as soon as you walk in the door after a long day, it’s probably just looking for some attention. Or maybe it’s hungry, wants to play, or is just in the mood for a little petting.

When it can be a problem

Rubbing against people, objects, and other cats is normal behavior for cats, and usually, there’s no cause for concern.

However, if this behavior is new, or if your cat has started rubbing more frequently or aggressively, it’s a good idea to consult your vet. They can help determine if there’s an underlying medical issue. Excessive or aggressive rubbing could be a sign of:

Allergies
Fleas
Ear infection
Feline hypersensitivity disorder
Neurological (brain) disorders

Ears back, eyes narrowed

If your cat’s ears are pinned back, its eyes are half-closed, and it’s giving you that side-eye, take the hint. This is your cat’s polite way of saying, “I’m not in the mood right now.”

It’s a sign of irritation or agitation, and they’re telling you to back off. If the whiskers are also pressed against their cheeks, it’s even more of a warning sign — they’re likely scared or defensive, not aggressive. Respect their space and hold off on the cuddles for now.

Stomping the ground before a lea

Have you ever watched your cat freeze in place, eyes locked on a target (maybe a fly, a toy, or even a sock), and then start stamping its paws as if gearing up for a major leap? This isn’t some random twitch — it’s a hunter’s instinct at play.

Before striking, cats will often “tremble” or stamp the ground in preparation, much like an athlete psyching themselves up before a big move. Their pupils dilate, ears twitch, and they focus intently on the target. It’s a ritual rooted in their wild ancestry, showcasing their natural agility and precision.

Decoding the cat code

Cats may not steak in words, but they sure know how to communicate with their body language. Every quirky behavior, from pee marks to frantic paw-stomping, has meaning.

By learning to decode these signals, you can build a deeper connection with your feline friend and uncover a surprisingly rich world of communication. So, the next time your cat does something odd, remember — it’s just trying to tell you something.