Mom gets text about daughter dating "black boy" – her response goes viral

Mom gets text asking if she knows her daughter is dating a “black boy” – response goes viral

I can vividly remember the first time I started to date someone, and the nerves I felt concerning telling my parents.

What would they think? How would my dad react? Would they be judgemental over my decision?

Of course, any fears I had were misplaced: my parents accepted the boy I was dating without any questions asked. So long as I was happy, they were too.

Sadly, not all parents have the same open-mindedness. Some can even be happy or unhappy with who their children are dating based on things such as the color of someone’s skin, or the religion they choose to follow.

Which is probably why one mom’s response to a text about who her daughter was dating has received so much attention …


Heather Boyer got a text from someone regarding the fact that her daughter was dating someone. Boyer herself admits it took her a while to figure out how to properly respond to the message, but once you see the text in question you’ll likely understand why.

She shared her response with Love What Matters, and it’s one that has proven extremely popular online.

Heather’s response

“Today my daughter changed her profile picture. After maybe 5 minutes I get a text …’ I didn’t know she was dating a black boy, did you?’

It took me all day to think up a response, which I didn’t send personally but thought I would share for anyone else that ‘may not know’.

“Yes in fact I did know, but the color of his skin doesn’t define who he is. What does define who is he is how he treats my daughter.”


“I see my daughter dating a boy that comes to my house and shows me nothing but respect (a big deal in my book). It’s always Yes Ma’am, No Ma’am, we talk about football and baseball, he tells me bye when he leaves, and has not once shown me a lack of manners or respect.

“I see my daughter dating a boy who treats her good. He takes her on dates, to ballgames, out to eat… not to a club or partying on the weekends.

“I see my daughter dating a boy who takes her to church with him. Every Sunday. He plays in the band, she sits with his family. How many young men these days make church a priority? None of the others have.”


“He doesn’t hit her, cuss her, lie to her, or make her cry. Would I rather her date a white boy that did, to keep from her dating another race? Absolutely not.”

“So that’s my response to the question I was asked. And I know people have their own opinion, but at the end of the day, the fact that my daughter has someone that loves her and treats her like a queen makes me happy. That’s something I’ve never had in my life and I’m glad she does.”

Great example

Heather, we salute you for such an incredible response. If every person in the world held to the same principles and views, it would be a far nicer and fairer place to live in.

We long for a time when no one is judged on their color, creed, beliefs or heritage, but rather the way they treat others and the deeds they do in life.

We wish Heather’s daughter and her boyfriend all the best moving forward! We’re happy you two have found each other.

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