Mom who struggled with infertility shares her roller coaster story

Approximately one in every five couples will, at some time in their lives, experience difficulties conceiving.

For many, it’s an extremely difficult and stressful time – but, as others will testify, patience and determination may pay off.

Desiree and Ryan Fortin waited patiently for many years before, eventually, the couple turned to in-vitro fertilization. They prayed to God that it would help them get pregnant.

Not long after the IVF treatment, they finally got the message that Desiree was pregnant. But the couple could never prepare for what was in her stomach …

College sweethearts Desiree and Ryan Fortin have been happily married since 2009, but there was one thing that didn’t really work – for a long time they had struggled to conceive.

Doctors diagnosed Desiree with polycystic ovarian syndrome, hypothyroid, and low progesterone – so she and her husband tried for three long and painful years before finally turning to in-vitro fertilization.

But instead of getting positive pregnancy tests, Desiree got her period over and over again. It was a mentally draining endeavor.

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New blog Up: To my 12 remaining embryos, The day we learned there were 14 of you we instantly knew our story of hope wasn't just for us. You have been frozen now for almost 3 years. Sometimes my infertility feels like a distant memory and other times the pain and anguish of an empty womb floods my heart like it was just yesterday. My body went through a lot just in hopes that God would give me one of you. So when the Doctor called to tell us there were 14 of you, we were in shock.I have been thinking about you a lot lately. I don't know if we will be going back for another round of IVF. Your siblings are triplets and it is kind of a lot right now. If we decided to have another baby and had the opportunity to bring one of you into this world, we know we could only take one of you. I wish we could take all of you, but I know in my heart that God didn't make you so I could keep all of you just for myself. It saddens me because I honestly can't bare the thought of some else raising you. And truthfully, it is hard for me to accept that someone else will be your Mom. She will be the one to hold you when you are sad, help you when you are sick, keep you safe when you are scared. She will be the one you depend on, the one you cry for, the one you make all your memories with. She will love you with a special kind of love a Mother has for her child. She will know you. She will watch you take your first steps, hear your first words. She will be the one to watch you grow up, graduate from school, and one day get married and have children of your own. I can feel the jealousy in my heart just thinking about her sharing those moments with you. I grieve not knowing you like she will know you. I grieve not being able to look deep into those beautiful eyes of yours and tell you how much I love you. I grieve giving you to her. You won't be mine anymore. However, as much as I call you mine, or even one day hers, the truth is, you are God's perfectly made little snowflakes. And I have to trust in what God told me in the very beginning: "You are hope, hope for many." Continue reading: link in Bio. #infertilityjourney #todayshow #lovewhatmatters #takebackpostpartum

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“It wasn’t just that I couldn’t get pregnant,” she wrote of those difficult years.

“[Infertility] brought me more tears than I ever thought I could shed…. I lay on my bathroom floor in complete emptiness after countless negative pregnancy tests time and time again. I had to endure shots, bruises, and all kinds of meds because when you are infertile and you seek fertility treatment for help, that is what you are in for. [It is] expensive and exhausting physically, emotionally, and mentally.”

So you can understand that Desiree and Ryan were ecstatic the moment they were finally told their first IVF treatment had worked.

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And when they saw the ultrasound they couldn’t believe there was not one but three babies growing! It turned out that the couple were expecting triplets – talk about success!

But the struggle wasn’t over for Desiree and her family.

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Although she finally had finally fallen pregnant, doctors warned her that she wouldn’t be able to carry all the triplets to term.’

“I was too thin, too short, and it was my first pregnancy,” she recalls being told. “However, my hope wounds proved her wrong.”

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The Fortin triplets were born in the summer of 2015. Desiree delivered at 34 weeks and one day, via C-section.

The couple were over the moon to welcome babies Sawyer, Jack, and Charlize – weighing more than 5 pounds each.

”I’ll never forget my delivery day. Like all things involving parenthood, there were unexpected turns. After the triplets were delivered, Ryan went with them to the neonatal intensive care unit and I was sent to recovery‚” Desiree told Today.

Desiree had some complications and bleeding, requiring emergency surgery, so she wasn’t able to see her precious kids right away.

But Ryan FaceTimed with her so that the new mom could see her little miracles. After two weeks in the NICU unit, all three babies were able to come home and start their lives.

Settling at home with three babies was a huge gift for Ryan and Desiree.

”We are blessed, but parenting is also a hard job filled with the greatest of responsibilities — caring for tiny humans. Our babies have severe reflux and colic — times three. Getting into a routine is difficult, as is maintaining your relationship amid crying babies, sleepless nights and a new routine,” Desiree said.

Today, the triplets are 4 years old and the whole family seems to doing great.

You can follow their life and adventures on Desiree’s Instagram page, where she’s got 150K followers.

”I never imagined God would use our story to reach so many people. It has been an incredible experience,” she says.

There, she’s also revealed that she and Ryan are expecting again! So soon this beautiful family will soon be six!

Thank you for sharing your story and your life Desiree, I really hope it can help other couples who are having a hard time and are struggling with infertility!