Being a growing preteen in today’s world is incredibly challenging as it is, between all the pressures kids have to face socially.
The world is just not the same anymore, and it can be hard for kids to be kids.
At the very least, we should all attempt to be understanding and kind to these children, and support them as they figure out just how growing up works.
That was not the case in this story – the teachers from this primary school in Bristol certainly did not get the memo.
I thought schools were supposed to be raising young children and educate them.
Instead, it seems the only education this girl has gotten was that she shouldn’t go to school while having her period.
According to reports, the girl asked multiple times to leave the classroom and go to the toilet, but was told no.
As a result, she was left feeling humiliated after bleeding through her clothes, not once but twice, and is now terrified to go to school whilst on her period.
Periods are a very natural and normal part of growing up – at first glance, it makes no sense that a school would scare a child going through puberty.
The girl’s mother is naturally upset with how the school handled the situation, and doubts whether young girls at school are having their basic health needs taken care of adequately.
Speaking to Bristol Live, the mom, who wanted to remain anonymous to protect her daughter’s identity, said:
“They should not be making young girls feel guilty because she needs to go to the bathroom and sort out her basic care. Now, she’s scared to go to school in case they won’t let her out of the classroom, that’s not what we should be teaching girls.
“We should be allowing them to go as part of giving them the tools to achieve their goals whether they are on or off their period.”
The first time this happened must have been hellish for this unnamed girl.
Following the first incident – which took place in September 2018 – the girl refused to go to school the next time she was on her period.
She was new to the school, and on that September day was wearing light-blue jeans. The stains would have shown up easily, causing the poor girl great embarrassment.
Having been new at the school, the difficulty of the experience was further heightened, leaving the youngster with a problem she should never have been forced to face.
Fortunately, on that occasion she was wearing a jumper long enough to help conceal the stain, but her discomfort in having to sit in the same clothes for the rest of the day should not be underplayed.
“I couldn’t believe it. I rang the school and complained and they just said it would be okay and wouldn’t happen again. They seemed sorry it had happened but didn’t tell me how they would make sure it didn’t happen again,” her mom said.
“Then, in October she came on again and she was petrified of going to school. I rang to say I was keeping her off and the attendance lady said I couldn’t keep her off school for that reason. I understood that, but she was so worried in case it happened again. I was assured the teachers would be told and that if there any problems to get back in touch with her.”
However, it was to happen again. This time it was a male teacher who refused her request to go to the bathroom. He even threatened to remove her from his classroom if she didn’t stop asking.
No wonder she didn’t want to go to school the next time her period rolled around.
Any mother would have been utterly furious at this, and this girl’s mother was no exception. She rang up the school and demanded an explanation.
“It shouldn’t have gotten as far as her having to bleed through her clothes not once but twice in the space of a few short months. Schools should be finding ways to help kids not traumatize them,” her mom said.
The school’s spokesperson offered only:
“The school does have a policy not to allow students out of lessons for the toilet as part of our Safeguarding procedures. Students should not be out of lessons unsupervised.
“However, as staff, we are all keenly aware that we have young girls in our care and that, on occasion, they will need to use the toilet outside of the usual break times.”
The mom claims her daughter has not received an apology from the school despite being made to feel like it was her fault.
The mum added: “I can’t remember ever not being allowed to go to the toilet in school unless you had been a few times during class. I’m one of three sisters and none of us had to go through anything like this.
Just what exactly were the teachers thinking?
Puberty is hard enough as it is – no wonder this girl is so traumatised now.
Hopefully these teachers will be properly educated in the future so no such thing can happen again.
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